The central fear underlying social phobia is the belief that other people are watching you and judging you in a critical way.
The key to challenging these types of thought is to realize that things in the adult world are very different from when you were young.
The vast majority of adults around you are too busy thinking about their own lives to spend much time or energy thinking about you.
In addition, most of the adults you encounter will treat you with the same kindness you extend others. if you make a mistake or do something stupid, it's not that important to them.
unfortunately, many people with social phobias react to others as if they are still in grade school or junior high school. At that time children are very cruel to another. While there are small number of adults who will react that way, most have grown up and will treat you in a mature manner.
Peurifoy, 2005: 47.
The key to challenging these types of thought is to realize that things in the adult world are very different from when you were young.
The vast majority of adults around you are too busy thinking about their own lives to spend much time or energy thinking about you.
In addition, most of the adults you encounter will treat you with the same kindness you extend others. if you make a mistake or do something stupid, it's not that important to them.
unfortunately, many people with social phobias react to others as if they are still in grade school or junior high school. At that time children are very cruel to another. While there are small number of adults who will react that way, most have grown up and will treat you in a mature manner.
Peurifoy, 2005: 47.